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This story is a bit long, and I apologize. But this is a very complex matter to me, and I have yet to come across information that could be useful to my unique situation…. I met my current boyfriend 11 years ago. At that time we were friends. We were friends since the very beginning.

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Like all long-distance relationships, long-distance friendships are complicated. They're not easy to maintain, as distance really can take a toll on your relationship. Many long-distance relationships don't last because one or both people starts neglecting the relationship or putting in less time and effort.

But, if you care deeply about this friend and want to keep them in your life, regardless of where you are, there are ways to hang onto that friendship. A long-distance friendship is a friendship between two people who live quite far apart — far enough that they don't see each other on a regular basis, if ever at all.

So does distance matter in friendship? Of course.

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When friends are close in proximity to one another, they can spend more time together. This means that they'll inevitably share more with each other and even go through life experiences together that can build stronger bonds. They'll know a lot more about each other than friends who are far away, who might not understand every situation or be able to offer the same partnership or even support in every situation. Distance can cause friendships to fade, which is natural when you spend less time with someone.

It can also be hard to keep in touch since you have to make more of an effort to call and visit each other. And, with time zone differences, as well, timing can get tricky. Not all long-distance friendships last, and that's for a myriad of reasons. Sometimes, with time, they simply fade out, while other times, distance can create tension and cause conflicts in the friendship, such as trust issues.

If you or your friend stops calling or texting as frequentlyit could be a red flag that the relationship is slowly fading out. Of course, people get busy, but in order to maintain a long-distance friendship, communication is key. Likewise, if texting or ing is your only form of communication when you used to chat on the phone all the time, this isn't a good.

If you or your friend stop prioritizing time to catch up, it could also be a that your friendship is slowing dwindling. Again, communication is key, and it's important that you both carve out the time to chat over the phone or Skype, etc.

The second you get lazy about it, it may only get worse from there and, soon enough, you could lose touch altogether. It's equally important for both you and your friend to keep abreast of important developments in each other's lives. If your friend gets a new joband you don't know about it, or you got dumped, and they don't know about it, it might be a red flag that you're losing touch.

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Friends share updates with friends. If you start forgetting the little details, like your friend's birthday or move-out date or wedding anniversary, etc.

If they stop calling you on your birthday or stop remembering to ask about that job promotion you told them about a few weeks ago, it could also be a that your friendship is slowly slipping away. If you or your friend starts to lose trust, that's a major red flag.

The nature of long-distance friendships

After all, trust is a central tenet of all friendships. Without trust, there is no friendship, especially when trust might be all you can have from so far away. If you feel like your long-distance friendship is starting to fail, there are some things you can do to deepen that friendship again. Here are five tips.

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Actually make the time to catch up with your friend. Carve out an hour each week to video chat.

Send a few texts each day or week. Call every weekend or every other weekend. Whatever it is that you're able to do, do it.

If you feel like your friendship is fading because you don't even know your long-distance friend's new boyfriend, or you haven't heard about their new job or you don't know how their family is doing, start opening up about your own updates. This will undoubtedly encourage them to open back up, too.

And you can also simply ask! Set reminders about important dates in your friend's life, like their birthday, for example. This way, you won't forget to reach out. If you're worried about trust issues in your friendship, start initiating deeper, more candid conversations with your friend.

You might just have to work your way back to that place of comfort with them. If you have the time, money and opportunity, go pay your friend a visit. Or invite them to visit you. Even if you can only make it out to each other once in a calendar year, it's better than never seeing each other at all.

How to tell if your long-distance friendship is doomed

The brutal truth is that long-distance relationships are tough; they're time- and energy-consuming, and you're not going to reap the same rewards as you do when you put in time and energy with friends at home. But if you don't put in the time or effort to maintain your long-distance friendship, it could all too easily fail.

AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel.

You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport. Follow topics like career advice, lifestyle or health. Discover and groups with like-minded women who share your interests, profession, and lifestyle. Long-Distance Friendships. AnnaMarie Houlis 4. The nature of long-distance friendships A long-distance friendship is a friendship between two people who live quite far apart — far enough that they don't see each other on a regular basis, if ever at all.

How to tell if your long-distance friendship is doomed Not all long-distance friendships last, and that's for a myriad of reasons. Here are five s that your long-distance friendship might be a failing one.

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You stop prioritizing time to catch up. You stop sharing important details about your lives with one another.

You start forgetting about each other in some ways. You start arguing over trust-related issues. Actually set aside time to catch up with your friend. Start opening up more with your friend. Set reminders for important dates pertaining to your friend.

Initiate more open, candid conversations with your friend. Plan visits to go see your friend.

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